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Take a Deep Breath Mommy

Lord help me, I’m having one of those days today.  The kind of day where I worry if my parenting choices are ruining my children.  The kind of day where I question my sanity for choosing to homeschool them.  What was I thinking?  They drive me nuts!  It’s one of THOSE days today.

Our picture schedule shows a full day of school, sports classes, and arts and craft activities.  Reality is that I have two, whiny little boys who don’t want to do anything and are taking it out on me.  I’m feeling completely frazzled and having a hard time working up the energy to motivate them.  I sure could use a timeout right now but there are no timeouts in parenting.

Even my prayers are hurried. I’m pleading for guidance while wiping up spills, stuffing snacks in backpacks and searching for a lost shoe.  I just had both shoes in my hand, how on earth did I lose one?

Take a Deep Breath Mommy - Emily's Puzzle - Feeling overwhelmed parenting a child with special needs? You aren't alone. EmilysPuzzle.comSensing my irritability, they team up and turn it up a notch.  We need a break from one another.

Frustrated, I give up on my plans for the day and throw the lone shoe back in the closet.   Desperate, I frantically search for the TV remote in hopes of some relief from their constant whining.

Remote in hand I turn on the TV as the boys begin to circle.  Eli’s chanting, “Little Einsteins” over and over drowning out Owen’s increasingly loud wails of disagreement.  I try to be patient.  I explain for the millionth time about compromising.  FIRST we’ll watch an episode of Little Einsteins THEN we’ll watch a show that Owen wants.  Owen’s too distraught to follow along and unable to verbalize what he wants.  Everything I do and say only makes his tantrum worse.

Reaching my breaking point, I scream, “That’s ENOUGH!  I’ve had it with both of you!  Get out of my face!  GO!”

In shock, both boys immediately stop whining.  If I were in a better mood, I would have found their shocked expressions amusing.

Eli’s bottom lip begins to quiver as he backs up and covers his eyes.  Apparently, watching his Mommy come undone is too much for him.

Through the pounding in my ears, I hear Owen’s quiet voice saying, “Take a deep breath, Mommy.”

My eyes immediately fill with tears.  My sweet boy, who often struggles managing his emotions, recognized that I was having a difficult time and comforted me the same way I’ve shown him when he’s having a meltdown.

I take a deep breath in, “They ARE listening, it IS working, we are going to be okay,” and I exhale.

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This article has 10 comments

  1. Jennifer DeFrates/Heaven Not Harvard

    Aw, it is so nice to see them learning. We wish it didn’t come as we were falling apart, but that is often how it goes. Then we get to demonstrate humility and repentance too! 🙂

    • Emily Eggleston

      Ha, that’s so true. Half the time I think my children are learning more about humility and repentance from me than anything else. It is wonderful seeing them grow and having their own realizations. This parenting gig…what a ride!

  2. Steph Curtis

    Sometimes, we are pushed to the edge. It’s important for them to see that, and then they know when they really have overloaded us! Been in a similar situation myself. Our children can always still surprise us 🙂

    • Emily Eggleston

      Thanks for your comment. I agree. I think its important for them to see us as human and struggling too. As for the surprises, the sure do keep ’em coming! 😉

  3. Nikki

    I’ve had days like this. My kids give me the same reaction. I apologize and give myself some grace. Great post

    • Emily Eggleston

      Thank you so much! I like the way you said that, I apologize and give myself some grace. I apologized but I don’t think I gave myself much grace. I’ll remember that. 😉

  4. ger

    just an everyday occurance in our home…there is something wonderful when you see all your work paying off even if you’re fit for a glass of wine at that point ! loved this x

    • Emily Eggleston

      Ha, that is so true! Thank you so much for your comment. 🙂

  5. Julie Clarke

    This made me smile. Yesterday my ASD 7 year old said to me “Do you need a time out Mummy?” when I was on the verge of a meltdown of my own (The missing toys, the fight over who watches Peppa Pig or Bing Bunny, the whining……. OMG don’t get me started on the “Mummyyyyyyyyyy he did…….. Mummyyyyyyyyyy I want….” lol). Thank you for sharing. I am slightly more composed today *not sure how long for* 🙂

    • Emily Eggleston

      Yep, that sound exactly like some of our days here. Glad you are feeling slightly more composed today. It’s still early here so I’m not sure how the day will unfold for us yet. Thank you for your comment. 🙂

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