Real Moms Real Challenges: Parenting a Child With Special Needs
I had the honor of being asked to write a blog post for a fellow mommy blogger and homeschooler, Marisa from Called to Mothering. She has a fantastic blog where she writes about parenting, homeschooling, family and life that’s inspirational and insightful. I highly recommend clicking through her site (after reading my post, of course) and reading some of her other amazing articles there.
She asked if I could write about a unique parenting challenge. As a parent of two children with autism, my mind started to race. A unique parenting challenge, heh, my entire parenting experience has been a unique challenge. How do I pick just one? I decided to sum it up in an overview more than one specific challenge. I hope I hit the mark. Here goes…
One of the unique challenges of having two children with autism is accepting the fact that they are going to meet developmental milestones in their own time and at their own pace. I am learning to abandon my expectations for them and accept that their childhood is going to be different than the one I had in mind for them. Their future, although bright, is very uncertain.
When my oldest son, Owen was diagnosed with autism at two years old, my world came crashing down around me. I had no idea what to expect and that was terrifying. I read countless articles on different therapies and how important it was to advocate for my child. I began seeking treatment for my son, demanding that he have the best therapists and doctors available to us. I didn’t get exactly what I wanted (thank goodness) because that would have been putting my two year old child through 40 hours of intense ABA therapy a week. Instead I got five in-home therapy visits per week and OT appointments outside the home twice a week. I was determined to make my baby well. What I wasn’t ready to accept then was that there is no cure for autism. No quick fixes. Autism is a part of who my son is and it will always be a part of him. Click to read full article.